If you are single, please know that God has a much higher calling upon your life than spending all of your time and energy trying to attract a marriage partner. Please also know that you are not forgotten or being punished, your singleness is actually a blessing if you embrace it and choose to use it wisely. As the Apostle Paul wrote, being unmarried is an amazing opportunity to serve the Lord without distraction. (1 Corinthians 7:34). Begin to search your heart to discern which areas of your life need to be cultivated into a more mature relationship with Christ. This is the key to serving God with your singleness instead of serving God to be married which involves a self-seeking motive. You reach a higher level of maturity in Christ when you ask of God what it is He would have you to do or study daily instead of asking God to do something for you. It is true that you might find a decent partner by reading books on how to get noticed, by joining an internet dating service or attending churches where the statistics are in better favor of your desired search for a spouse. But what amazing heaven-scripted beauty and mature relationship with our heavenly father we forgo when we try to write the story ourselves. God is in fact in the business of writing incredible love stories. The Word of God has been compared to a love letter from God to us as His children however the problem is that most of us aren’t willing to leave the pen in His more than able and sovereign hands. As a warning it is also destructive to remove the pen from the Author and Finisher of our faith and peruse our own good and place God’s name on our own agendas for justification.
In the same way, when we rush ahead of God in search of a love story, we end up with less than God’s very best for our lives. Often times our good ideas such as casual dating, flirting or even manipulation for attention must first be dissected under truth to reveal sin or selfishness. Also often, our good plans that don’t particularly lead us to sin will still distract us from God’s best for our lives.
The most honoring way to find a godly spouse is to stop searching for one and instead focus your entire life around Jesus Christ and His priorities. During the blessing of time given while still single you began to produce fruit of a relationship with Christ as a foundation of truth and a life giving source. Also it is during the time of singleness while keeping your priorities in order that you find yourself cultivating the areas of your own life that will prepare you to be the godly spouse that you yourself would desire in a husband or wife. If God wants you to be married, He is MORE than capable of writing your love story in the most unlikely way, in the most unlikely place and without the help of blind dates, singles groups, online dating services, your well-meaning family members that continue to remind you that you are getting older and even your own opinions about your honestly selfish motives to find completeness in another person. We must realize that our true identities are found in Christ and our wholeness comes from God alone. Also how much different would our single lives look if we exchanged our time searching for our future husbands or wives and spent it studying the Word of God and PRAYING for our future spouses instead.
Remember that God cares more about this area of your life than even you do. He wants the pen of your life, not to make you miserable, but to bless you beyond all you could ask or think. Those who put their hope in Him will not be disappointed. Trust God with every area of your life and continue to pursue Him. God will not allow you to miss out on the opportunities and future He has planned for you when you continue to seek His face and walk in the path He has planned for you before you were even born.
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6
